What is it that we all want out of life? Do people who we think have everything, like Bill Gates or some other rich people still fantasise? And no you dirty minded so and so’s I’m not talking about sexually. I mean, they have everything. And if they haven’t got it, they can make somebody else go and get it for them. Having so much you don’t want for anything… To me that’s almost incomprehensible. But I think that might become a little bit boring. You would have to keep yourself busy wouldn’t you?
Do people who are wealthy do just that? Do they keep themselves busy while other people run around and work and make them money? Like playing tennis at the most fancy country club or sailing around the harbour on the yacht. That sounds like living to me, but it also sounds a little empty.
One of my favourite quotes is this;
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
That’s an excerpt from Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson. And as much as I love it, it is also a very daunting truth. The previous statements about having everything are in the right side of this. All people have the power to control what happens around them, they can affect change, be driven and ambitious. They can make things happen by being more dedicated than then next person, by never letting go of an idea or a goal. This is true of everyone. I am not a religious or spiritual man, when I say faith I do not think of a god or any religious icon. When I talk about faith, I mean self belief and the old saying that you can do anything you put your mind too.
People achieve the most amazing things almost every day. Often times it’s something we will never see, and it will scarcely be something many of us might call amazing, but it happens. It could be a piece of homework that you want to get an A+ for and you work extra hard because the topic means something to you. If you get an A+ have you not achieved a goal? The scale or the magnitude of the dream is irrelevant. The achieving of it is what makes it important. Taking time to work for something that you want more that anything at one specific time and then not letting go of that, always keeping that in sight is something that few people will do in their lifetimes. But only because they don’t see it that way. When you get your first car, rent your first apartment, graduate university, buy a house, get married, have a baby, and the list goes on. They are all dreams, wants, goals and desires. And they can all be achieved through hard work, dedication and self belief (is it just me or do I kind of sound like some sort of coach?)
But the opposite and more negative and for me more foreboding side of that quote is that you are powerful. You have the power to affect change in a persons life, their future and maybe even their ambitions or goals. But what if you aren’t the kind of motivated and driven person mentioned above? What if you try but you just give up? What if settling is all that you will ever do because trying to do something is just too difficult. If you let it happen you can make someone else less happy by never being able to do the things either you or that other person dreamed of doing. Bringing someone down and out of a future that they not only wish for but deserve is the scariest thing in the world.
Starting out and making a go of life is something that everyone needs to do but then why does it have to become a hindrance to start making decisions for someone else. People make themselves happy with what they have and what they can afford to have but will always want for and look back at the things that they could or should have had if this hadn’t happened. Or they had done that differently. A life where you don’t do exactly what you want for as long as it is your choice and within your power to do is a life that is not only wasted but is destined to be filled with regrets.
A conscious thought or a fear of knowing you will never be able to provide for someone the way they deserve to be is crippling to me. This is why the rich people of the world are people that I will always be envious of. The money is a default part of why I am jealous and yes I would like to be wealthy, who wouldn’t? No, the bigger reason I am green eyed is that they will never have that fear. They will never let someone down and they will never life their life knowing that they can‘t do something. And I would like to emphasise that this is not boyfriend & girlfriend or husband & wife specific. I do not mean that these kind of changes or alterations to the plan only happen to those people who are romantically involved or in love. That is perhaps more common, but no this can happen with friendships and usually the best of friendships.
This is all due to the fact that everyone is under the influence of someone else’s actions and/or opinions. The people that you are closest too will have an impact on all of the things that you think about because you share your thoughts and feelings with those that are closest too you. Usually. I am kind of like that, there are things that I will just not talk about, because they are either too upsetting or maybe my thoughts or feelings are just that... mine. Even so, when I do something or say something, who I am doing it with (stop being rude) or saying it too will be positively or detrimentally affected by my words or actions. The hardest thing in the world is to not let your opinions overlap and intrude on someone else’s. Those adventures you make up as children, those ideas you have as kids and those plans you make when you’re adults can all crumble and fall into the deepest reaches of your mind if you falter at any of the hurdles in your way.
If you take a moment to consider all this, you will realise that I am not being as melodramatic as you might initially think. I bet every single person that reads this can name a time whereby, had they done or said something differently, not only their but the lives of someone else may be entirely different. I can think of several myself, I try not to think too hard my teens are a period in which there are many changes I wish I could make.
Retrospect is a very cruel and harsh thing that we all experience all of the time. Usually it’s something you can just go back and do or say, like when you realise you forgot to tell someone something so you just call them back. When it comes to the key points in your life (which I know are swirling around your heard because they are in mine) retrospect can sometimes hurt. Almost everyone moves on from the things that they should have done. I can’t help but feel sorry for the people who let themselves dwell on whatever it was and become lost in their own imaginations. Not that they go crazy or clinically insane or anything but that they may loose out on the next best thing or indeed something better because they weren’t paying attention.
There are quotes and sayings that can emphasise or expand all of this, I was going to say point but having re-read as I’ve wrote again its all jumbled and vague, but what it is that I am trying to say or get out is this. Every individual is the most powerful person in the world. You have the opportunity to alter not only yours but the lives of everyone you come into contact with. To strive and work hard and obtain all the things that you might ever want is the want that we all have. But most of us do fall at one of those hurdles. I know I did, I have, and I will endeavour to never do it again because I don‘t know about you, but I don‘t want to let go of the things I want. The hurdles in front of you are only as big as you let them be. Take them one at a time and with gusto. Don’t look back and keep your head up. And remember, to always face your deepest fear.
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